Have you ever found yourself standing in front of the mirror, scrutinizing every stretch mark and curve that motherhood has etched into your skin? You are not alone. Pregnancy is often predominately presented as a period of excitement and anticipation, but for some, the physical changes that occur during and post pregnancy can increase the risk of negative body image. According to the Mental Health Foundation, more than half of the women in this world reported feeling dissatisfied with their bodies after pregnancy (2019).
5 Ways To Strengthen the Relationship You Have with Your Body Postpartum
In the wake of childbirth, the female body undergoes profound transformations, both physical and emotional, yet societal pressures often amplify insecurities rather than embracing this miraculous change. In this blog, we delve into five ways mothers can work towards improving the relationship they have with their postpartum body, helping them to explore and celebrate their evolving selves.
1. Setting Realistic Expectations
We live in a time where social media dictates beauty standards. Many of us fall victim to comparing ourselves to unrealistic portrayals of postpartum women and highly fabricated images of celebrities all of which emphasize the importance of “bouncing back” after a baby. These platforms never delve into the actual challenges that come along with postpartum experiences, and the impacts this may have on the mothers body. Quite often new moms tend to resort to extreme methods of weight loss such as harsh diets or intensive workout regimes in effort to meet these societal expectations.
However, it’s important to recognize that these images are often far-fetched. Your body is going through a major change and requires healing and care which may take some time. It’s crucial to set realistic expectations for your body by actively listening to its needs and acknowledging your emotions, whatever they may be. One way of doing so is being mindful of such societal biases, being open to these changes you are experiencing without judgement, and recognizing that it’s natural for your body to demand a larger appetite and greater down time.
2. Reframing Negative Self-Talk To Gratitude
William James, philosopher and psychologist, once stated “The greatest discovery of my generation is that human beings can alter their life by altering their attitude of mind”.
Although the postpartum period consists of a plethora of unknowns, one way to gain control or power is by creating a health shift in your mindset and engaging in positive self-talk. One way to do so is by recognizing the negative thoughts that arise and then try to replace them with a neutral or positive thought. Another helpful tip may be trying to talk to yourself like how you would want your child to talk to themself. This may look like appreciating what your body can do for you instead of focusing on solely its appearance. For example:
Your current thought: “I hate that I have excess belly fat and stretch marks.”
Reframed though: “I am grateful that my body was able to stretch and adapt to nourish a new life.”
3. Re-analyzing Your Metric of Self-Worth
Many of us have had periods in our life where we continuously step on that weighing scale hoping that that the number in front of our eyes miraculously changes. Although it may be tempting to consistently do weight checks, it’s essential to realize that you are not defined by that number!
The effect of postpartum may seem only tangible at first glance, however, there are various intangible changes that the mind and body are going through. Many mothers struggle with body image as this is intertwined with their desire to reclaim their identity before pregnancy.
So, it’s crucial to remember that the number on the scale is not a reflection of who you are, and you must have compassion and grace while you go through this identity transition.
4. Recognizing Your Triggers and Eliminate Them
As we all know, social media is a powerful tool that can not only educate but foster insecurity and unrealistic expectations. Hence, it’s important to be mindful of your social media algorithm and create a safe space for your mind. This may look like unfollowing accounts that push the negative narrative and curate your feed with accounts that promote body positivity and acceptance. Some women have even reported that taking additional steps like getting rid of their weighing scales or magazines has reduced stress levels as it mitigates ways, they compare themselves to others (Hunt, 2023).
5. Join a Support Group
Sometimes having a lending ear can make a world of a difference. It can be extremely cathartic and validating to share your emotions with others and hear others share similar experiences. There are several resources such as postpartum support groups, postpartum yoga classes or even seeking professional one on one therapeutic help for that matter!
Navigating the challenges of negative body image can feel like an uphill battle. However, it’s important to remember that your worth as a mother and a woman transcends societal standards of beauty. Embracing a holistic approach to practicing self-love becomes a cornerstone in making your body feel like ‘home’ again. This may include nourishing your body and mind, fostering positive self-talk, and seeking support from loved ones. It’s a journey of acknowledging your body’s resilience, embracing imperfections as badges of honour, and cultivating a sense of appreciation for your strength.
